Bats in the Bowl

May 31, 2011

Okay, WARNING, WARNING!!! 

The adjacent picture is not for the faint-hearted.  That is a picture of a bat in our downstairs toilet (still alive and treading water and skidding up and down the slick porcelain bowl trying to escape)…How it got there, we are not sure. True, every home here houses some bats in the eves and crevices of our outdoor roofs (and though that issue can be minimized, these little critters’ nests are impossible to completely eliminate). They very rarely get or come inside except accidently through an open window or door left open shortly after dusk, and really – bats are our friends, because they love to eat mosquitoes. But how this little fellow landed in our toilet bowl one night had us scratching our heads. We did rescue it using a Solo cup, (and flung him outside) but not without a few squeamish moments and a several bad swear words.

View from Barb & Robert's
Curia "back" yard

Todd and I have been spending quite a bit of time in Curia (the village just north of Olon) for the last couple of months because Barbara and Robert from Northern California who were guests of ours (and now friends) bought a darling beach-front home in Curia earlier this year. 

Robert & Barbara
Todd & Leigh - Jan 2011

Barbara and Robert are probably one of the most kind and generous couples Todd and I have ever known.  When they were here for their exploratory visit and purchase in January, they thoughtfully brought a number of much appreciated goodies we had been craving (without our solicitation, but they sensitively picked up on a few of our yearnings reading this blog). And OMIGOD – the greatest thing they brought (as far as this Kansas City meat-lovin’ gal is concerned) was a bag of Costco (Kirkland brand) bacon bits. Todd and I went nuts and put those bacon bits into everything we cooked or ate – eggs, pancakes, ice cream, Frosted Flakes – you name it) until we ran out…So I guess this is probably NOT a very nuanced HINT in case anyone coming to EC to visit their expat meat-loving friends and have room in a suitcase to bring a bag or two of those.

Barbara and Robert

But honestly, even more importantly, these two kind-hearted souls brought a ton of stuff for the local kids. Most toys, games, art supplies/coloring markers, etc, are expensive in our area; a thin coloring book costs $4 at the mall in Libertad. I suppose Barb and Robert packed at least a full suitcase of assorted coloring books, coloring and artwork supplies (which essentially cost nothing at Target/Wal-Mart, dollar stores, thrift stores, etc in Estados Unidos, but often prohibitively expensive here). The morning I went with them while they gifted these to several local nursery schools and neighborhood kids, the children were ecstatic, lots of kissing and hugging and giggles as they thanked Barb and Robert. (Kicking myself for not getting a picture of this). One of our local neighborhood kids (Franklin) got so excited he ran inside to give them an invitation to his graduation from grade/junior school the next night.

We all went the following night to Franklin’s class graduation at the local school, which was special, didn’t start until around 8PM, lasted until 10PM, and the celebration moved to our Olon park until early morning (the stage had been readied, chairs set up, but we didn’t make it to that part of the celebration).

Franklin

Barb and Robert want to live here and have wisely begun their preparations now to return to Ecuador permanently within the next year or so. We think they are on the right track, but completely understand and can relate with their current situation ("Cribbage In the Wind"). Especially hard to handle is how to deal with paying from long distance the gardeners, security, utility bills, etc in cash during absences. If one has an Ecuadorian bank/savings/credit account some of this can be handled on-line – assuming you have some Spanish language skills and the laborers have a bank account and some on-line knowledge as well and speak at least a little English.

This was a challenging experience for us until we moved here (and we took some real hard knocks during our 3 year pre-move long-distance property management learning curve) and we are still learning. In the meantime, we agreed with Barb and Robert to handle their property management issues until their return.   Honestly, we have enjoyed the time we have spent in Curia to oversee their property and getting to know better the local gente simpatico (nice people) who live there.

Todd and I are not in the property management business, and don’t seek it, but aside from B&R’s house in Curia we also currently handle one other property as “managers” for now. As anyone who has owned/maintained a home anywhere knows and understands the day to day attention that requires, this can be very time consuming. I will eventually in a later post discuss the education we have gained since our consent to handle the daily issues to oversee two other properties aside from our own (i.e. – refrigerators breaking down, or other mechanical stuff going on the blink, constant plumbing, wood-repair, and electrical  issues  raising hell).  In Ecuador, this also includes having some basic Spanish technical vocabulary, weeding out the shysters from the true qualified “professionals” (“maestros”) and having lots of patience, since everything – everything – moves at a glacial “mañana” pace compared to what we are used to.

Todd, Barbara, Robert
Sandy and Sue

Barb and Robert recently returned to Curia for a week along with her cool sister, Sandy and partner Sue. B&R generously brought us a camera (a thoughtful surprise) to replace our last one which was stolen about a month ago in a snatch and grab (unusual here and our first encounter in four years with that type of crime, and likely roving juvenile delinquents – we suspect no local Olon people).  Unfortunately, we didn’t have as much leisure time to spend with them as we hoped, since we were dealing with a number of work related issues (we think this is sometimes hard for our visiting friends to understand, because most come here for a retreat, but we are not “vacationing” and have a number of daily work obligations to deal with.

If I sound a little “down in the dumps” tonight – I am.

The last few weeks have been difficult for us.  Several days before Barb and Robert arrived, a very ugly car accident occurred near Manglaralto (involving a commercial truck swerving out of the way to avoid running over a sudden cow (“vaca”) on the Ruta highway in the dark, but resulted in colliding with two oncoming personal vehicles being struck instead).  Three people (maybe 4?) died in this accident and around another eleven folks were hospitalized, a few with very serious injuries. This doesn’t happen often on the Ruta del Sol, and most local communities had friends or family involved in the incident.  Quite quickly and typically, the villages along the route began fund raising for all the families affected.  We also donated to several of the “communa” donation efforts, and it wasn’t until several days later that we also realized that a few of our local friends were in those cars:

1. Lovely Carmen, who worked at our local water company and helped me each month when paying our water bills died in the accident.
2. Fernando, a friendly local acquaintance of ours, and Olon neighbor who owns the Montanita Zip Line Canopy was seriously injured, but now recovering well.
3. But worst of all, our friend Pedro (from Curia) who is probably our oldest long time local friend here (we met him 4 years ago when he was driving a taxi; he has been to our home many times since then to share a beer or two, and we’ve been to his home for delightful meals prepared by his wife Patti) was the most seriously injured – but alive – though is still in a coma, last we heard.

Pedro and his family
Taken a couple of years ago after
lovely lunch at their home.

For those who may want to donate a few dollars we suggest contacting Beth Pitts at through the Casa Del Sol website.  They have been actively collecting donations to help these families and can provide more detailed information.

We’ve also recently become embroiled in a dispute instigated by a former employee (gardener) we inherited when we bought our home 4 years ago.  We mutually agreed then to continue his part-time gardening employment at agreed upon terms, provided bonuses and other Ecuadorian mandated employee benefits (like the 13^th month bonus obligated only to full-time employees) despite the fact that his work ethic was indolent and inconsistent, which we indulged in our best effort to comply with our understanding of Ecuadorian labor laws (which will almost always favor the Ecuadorian perspective versus the gringo documentation). He worked less and less for his pay, continually asked for extra money and tips, which were often provided, along with many generous gifts to his family.  We were aware that he was involved with perhaps some unsavory activities in town, but we befriended him, and trusted him enough to allow him access inside our home even if we were out for a few minutes and in that respect, he never betrayed us as far as we are aware…However a few months ago, he was busted and jailed for a few weeks on narcotic charges (growing a couple of marijuana plants on the lot next to his free housing in our compound). Since then he has never returned to work – we never fired him. He told us his attorney advised him that one condition of his release was contingent on moving out of his free Jardines de Olon housing and that he was not allowed to enter the compound/neighborhood for any reason.  Let me repeat…We never fired him despite his many dereliction of duties (a valid consideration under EC labor laws in our favor we think). In fact we felt bad for his family and paid an additional month wages while he was jailed to help them in that situation. Yet, we were recently served with papers (not quite at an official judicial level yet) requesting about $4000 from us for his severance because he lost his job.

This situation likely will be an on-going headache for us for awhile, one that I probably will not discuss after this post, and usually depends on who you know, who can be bribed, or who you can afford to hire….

“This is Ecuador” is a phrase often repeated by many living here. Yet it is not meant or said to scare people away from living or investing here.  I suppose this type of situation happens in most countries - (and I include the United States, where it’s just done with a little more finesse and sophisticated facades).

Also, Todd was working high on a ladder one morning a few weeks ago (hanging moth balls bags around outdoor roof ledges, which have a substantial effect of deterring bats from nesting) when the ladder collapsed, which thankfully didn’t break any of his bones or ribs, but did seriously tear some of his back/rib muscles and cartilage. It’s the type of injury that is very painful for at least several months and not much can be done but wait for it to heal naturally, so he is frustrated by these limitations and isn’t a very happy camper now.   

I’ve been more whiney and depressed lately because I miss my family and kids very much, especially because I have a new granddaughter I’ve yet to hold or hug or kiss, and I would still kill for real Mexican food (though I have finally hit upon a few improvised recipes using local ingredients that have been satisfying my food cravings)…I will share a few of those recipes shortly, but I’ve already rambled on for too long now.

Our dog Daisy has recently developed a rapidly growing lump on her side, which is most likely a cist of some sort. We had our new vet Dr. Byron examine her, who drained a little fluid from it, but didn't collect any for further lab examination, and didn't seem too concerned. We are going to get a second opinion from another vet shortly, but at least Daisy doesn't seem to bothered by it at all.

Despite all these recent tribulations, Todd and  have been encouraged greatly by our friends here (who for the most part are either native locals or expats who have been entrenched here full-time as long or longer than we have been) who have been spiritually generous and lovingly supportive of us during this discouraging season. For that we are very grateful.

Still, I am thinking of one of my favorite quotes, gifted to me by my dear Aunt Jane Leo (my late Mom’s older sister) who is probably one of the greatest people I’ve ever known. She is very frail now (in her late 80’s), but in her day, she was the “coolest”, funniest, bluntly honest person I’ve ever known.  During much darker days than I’m briefly experiencing now, she gave me some of the best advice I’ve ever heard, which kept me going, cracked me up (LOL thing) for some reason – but words I still rely on during hard times…

She said to me:

Just remember…

It’s always darkest -- right before it gets pitch black”

An affectionate moment between Jane & I
a few years ago.